Many times in life we become so overly focused on one thing that we literally create a blur of the things going on in the background of our lives. In photography we do it purposely, unfortunately in life we do it unconsciously. Think about the things you focus on daily. Is there one thing that continually gets your time and attention while other things fade into the background? Whether it is a relationship, finances, job or a particular issue, when we allow our focus to become so concentrated on one thing, other things in our lives suffer.
Mistakes are made when we focus so far off into the future that we can't see the things standing right in front of us. Perhaps we are looking far to the horizon where we set our sights on accomplishing a great goal. When we only focus on future accomplishments, we alienate ourselves from the people and things in our lives that are present in the moment.
On the other hand sometimes we only focus on the past and get very stuck there. When we rehash our lives or events in the past we literally tune out life and only see the movies play in our heads of the past. It can be very traumatic to relive painful memories, past failures and loss. The trouble with this is that as long as we live in the past we can't move forward. Our minds then begin to project these past events into the present and even the future. We get so lost in the reverie of thought that we can't seem to see a way out of it. In terms of relationships, when we focus so much on the past hurts we've endured or even caused, we end up paralyzed and can't do anything to change it. We project those hurts into our current circumstances and begin to feel those familiar feelings from the past, believing the same thing is happening in the current relationship. It feels so real that we react to our current partner as if he/she is doing the same thing as our past partner did. When we only focus on the past we miss out on the experience thats right in front of us. The same applies to jobs, goals, even weight loss. When we got stuck focusing on past failures we no longer have the confidence to move forward in a positive way.
Paying attention to the Bokeh in a photograph is a great reminder to consciously
be aware of what you are focused on. In the photo I shot of this bird, you can't make out anything in the background other then faded colors. How many times do we miss what is right before us and opt to focus on what is already behind us. Our minds can easily get lost in the pictures within our heads. It is up to us to consciously control our focus and thoughts. When we choose what we will focus on, our lives manifest in a more controlled fashion. We are no longer victims of circumstance but powerful Creators in our own lives, co-creating with the Universe and God.
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