Hopefully you have listed your priorities in order of importance, if not do that now. Next, make sure your values are listed in order of importance too. Next, go fill out this work/life balance calculator. (Hint I use the leisure category for activities with my family, friends and hobbies. Because I have no commute, I use the commute column for time spent meditating and pursuing spiritual growth. You can substitute whatever your desire.)
Now that you've completed the calculator, compare the time spent on activities versus time spent on things you call priorities. If that is off balance in accordance to your listed priorities, you need to schedule differently and intently. For instance, if I say Family is important but only spend 4 hours a week with them, I'm not living in accordance to my priorities. I will then adjust my schedule so that my priorities are in balance. Play with your schedule to find one that lines up with your priorities.
Next, look at your value list. I value life, integrity, honesty, openness, trust and compassion. I must look at myself honestly to see if what I value most, I'm living and projecting in my own life. If I value honesty but don't live an honest life, I'm not fulfilling my own expectations. Whatever you value, you must project so as to remove all inner conflict. As you line your life up with your values, you will find you are surrounded by others who also hold the same values. If you value trust, but you are in a relationship that is not trustworthy, you must decide just how much you value it.
Living in conflict with our values and priorities cause a great deal of inner turmoil. Our lives then become a chaotic, reactive, drama instead of a life of peace. It also creates a lack of personal integrity with those closest to us. If you tell your partner you value relationship over work, but always choose work before the relationship, you are lying. You are either lying to yourself or your partner. In either case, you have created unnecessary tension for yourself. If you are teaching your kids the importance of family yet you don't make time spent with family a priority, you are sending a mixed message to your children. Again, you are either lying to yourself or them.
Correct your schedule, align to your own personal values and priorities. I promise if you live in accordance with your true values, your life will be a life of joy, love and abundance!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!