The Law of Forgiveness
(an excerpt from my book)
That which you forgive in others will be forgiven in you. That which you hold against others will be held against you. Whatever we judge against others causes judgment to fall on ourselves. When we forgive others for their mis-takes we allow them to be imperfect. The imperfections we allow in others allow ourselves to be imperfect as well.
Forgiveness and acceptance is the key to freedom and love. When we accept others as they are without expecting something in return, we are operating at the highest level of love. It is when we hold a grudge based on something we feel was taken from us that we allow anger and resentment to build.
Forgiving ourselves for mistakes and imperfections is also very important. The biggest MIS-conception we have of ourselves is that we are to behave perfectly and always make perfect choices. What we seem to forget is that no matter what choice we make it is the perfect choice for that moment based on the information we have available to us.
One day while hiking in Sedona, Arizona, I had a very important lesson shown to me. I was a bit unsure of what path to take up Cathedral Rock. The path I chose to take was a bit steep and rocky. I prayed for some spiritual guidance and asked that I be shown the best path to take to reach the top of the mountain. When I quieted my mind down enough to listen, the most wonderful message was received. Spirit guided me to the right of where I was standing. Through some brush and over a rock I continued to climb. Although I was not sure that this path was the correct path, I followed the guidance. Within a few minutes I realized the path I was redirected to was much smoother, as many people before me had cleared it. The most surprising part of the change in path was that within 10 minutes I reached the peak of the mountain and I didn’t even realize I was ascending. My breathing was steady and my legs didn’t strain to climb. Once at the peak, Spirit gently spoke to me “Every path leads to the same place. You have the freedom to choose which one you want to take. Do you want to take the hard and rocky path, or do you prefer the smooth and easy path that has been cleared before you.”
The message I received that day was very important. I realized how many times I chose to take the hard and rocky path of life, somehow thinking it was necessary. Because of my resentments towards others and mostly myself, I was always walking that hard path. As soon as I released the need to be perfect and have everyone else be perfect, my path became easy and effortless. I am not saying that every moment will be easy but the more we allow unconditional acceptance and love to enter our lives and minds we open up to the easy path of life. Ultimately it is true, “every path leads to the same place” and our final destination in this life will be reached regardless of which path we choose.
Forgiveness allows us to choose freely which path in life we want to walk and the freedom to walk without fear or resentment. When we hold resentments and grudges against ourselves and others, we become burdened with a very heavy load. Forgiveness allows us to release that load and travel through life lightly, unencumbered by anger.
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